Topic  2008

 Over the years, people have asked me why it is that they attend an all day seminar that supposedly will change their lives only to find that their dreams retreat to the background while their regular selves once again assume the dominant position.

 In most cases, the answer lies in the fact that there is no continuous reinforcement that allows such a process to occur. Hearing something one time, even though it may be for an all day event, virtually has a minimal, if any, long term effect. The injunctions that keep you where you are have been heard far too many times over a duration of too many years and tend to dissolve the benefits that might have accrued otherwise.

 Now we’re back to where we started. How can we bring about lasting change into our lives? Let’s take an open and honest look into the process as change can actually be easier than you think….if you work at it!! I will have to repeat the aforementioned words again as, without them, inertia remains……..and they are - open and honest.

 Most of us are not open and honest, not just with others, but with ourselves. You all have a dark side below your conscious radar that directs much of what you do and determines who you are. How can you uncover that dark side and bring about lasting change?

 First you must unravel the directives that are given to you subconsciously by taking the time to watch “you” in action. For example, if you say one thing and do another, you are incongruent. This is where brutal honesty comes in and it “ain’t” easy.

 In order to allow the process to work, it is best to think in terms of changing yourselves as opposed to changing others. If you know that you can barely change yourselves, how in the world could you have the arrogance to think that you are capable of changing others? That’s why what we do at our meetings allows for a process of  “self discovery.” For example, if getting others to commit is a problem for you, guess what? Learn how to make a commitment yourself and the problem becomes resolved. We are nothing more than a projection of our inner selves.

If excuses surface, you’re not ready. If you’re not ready, STOP until you feel congruent with your internal dialogue. This is where you go off track. You are full of it and have no honest intention of changing.. For example, you make an internal statement that says you’re going to start exercising. Sense how it feels and then follow up to see the extent to which you follow through with your training schedule. If you say you’re going to exercise and you exercise, you are beginning to understand what it means to be congruent.

If the decision is made and you honestly feel your intent and commitment to change is alive and well, go for it. Become a powerful “self observer” watching all your excuse patterns surface and do not allow them to take control once again. You must stay with it day after day after day…………not allowing your life long excuse patterns to be believed as valid objections.
 

 Change only one thing at a time and do not move to the next trait to be changed until you have achieved your initial goal and it has become a part of your behavior. Stopping your constant awareness too early will stop you from purifying your negative injunctions that negate the effectiveness of the process.

 Note:  I never said that change was easy, however, now you know why people don’t change. It takes brutal honesty and a powerful commitment with intent. Without that, nothing happens. However, once you become a true observer of you, you would be surprised how quickly you can create, not a temporary, but lasting change.

 How many of you STILL want to change? You are my heroes!!………and good luck!

  Below is our 2008 Meeting Schedule: